Systemic Work, Family Settings and Systemic Coaching

Silhouettes of a family holding hands against a sunset background, representing Systemic Work, Family Settings and Systemic Coaching at the Grapevine Stop

Praca Systemowa, Ustawienia Rodzin i Coaching Systemiczny – oba pracują z systemami – trochę definicji

Systems work is based on the idea that we are all part of groups or systems, and that within all these systems, (unconscious) patterns and dynamics determine how individuals behave. These systems exist naturally, the first system simply because we came to our parents, that we were conceived, that we were born: our family. Dead or alive we are part of our family system. In most systems, we are a part for a certain period of time, e.g., school, work at company X, but one remains a member of the family system forever whether we have contact with the family or not, and whether family members are among the living.

Setting families is a method, a way to show how the system works, what happens in the base (hidden) layer, at the base. And there is also systemic work - an overarching theory of how family systems, organizational systems and social systems work.

Photo showing intertwined hands of different generations, symbolizing support and unity at the Stop Gronówka

The setting is derived from the systemic form of the work, the setting is a representation:

  • setting with representative people - then verbal or behavioral interaction is possible
  • setting up alone with a coach with cups or objects on the table helps visualize the question in the setting.

If we're running or creating settings, theory helps interpret what's happening in the setting-in the field-but you don't necessarily need to do the setting to be able to work systemically, or see from a systems perspective. The work can be limited to asking systemic questions, thinking about something.

Systemic coaching is the art and skill of working with an individual client or group to uncover and enable change in hidden patterns and dynamics in the systems of which the client is a part. The art is to let the natural systemic intelligence flow again. As a result, the coach not only helps the "coached" person find a solution to his or her problem, he or she helps the coachee tap into a natural source, a source of systemic wisdom that may have been temporarily unavailable due to the time-consuming issues of daily life and the pressure of the speed of the world around us. Systemic coaching is the art of asking questions. The coachee remains at the helm, the coach stands beside him.

What I do:

As a systemic coach, I may choose to work with the setting, which will make the question "visualized" - for example, with the help of cups... However, I often do not do the setting because the very asking of the question causes something to open up, and something becomes clear, something obvious, for example, someone asks why he always makes a judgment of his boss, his manager, you can then ask, who does this manager remind this person? - and this is a system question - at its core is the theory that someone from that person's work (system) resembles someone from that person's family system. And this question brings up the thought of connecting to another system... e.g. I hate this guy a lot because he reminds me of my brother, father, uncle, just think of someone... with whom you were in a difficult relationship and into this feeling can be unravelled... no, wait a minute, this is not about the manager, but about the projection of the family relationship into the relationship in the organization system.

Sometimes it's enough to ask questions to unravel the problem, but sometimes it turns out to be something in other systems that needs to be figured out, then the question for the person-client is: what does he want to do next? E.g., can he see his manager in an employment relationship rather than a family relationship? What does it take to change the perception of that relationship? Or maybe it still turns the client on so much that he should look for another job. Once insight is gained, the room for maneuver increases - a wider range of choices for action is created.

When is it useful to have a setting, and when is it useful to have a systematic conversation with a coach?

It depends on the person himself. There are people who do not dare to submit to the setting, they find it too confrontational. If someone believes in the potential of the setting, the benefits, then he has the best chance of success. But, for example, people who have been through a lot find the constellation too intense and want to think things over in a quiet environment. There are people who don't find it too exciting per se, but for the sake of confidentiality they don't want to share in a group n. with 15 unknown people, and they don't want to expose patterns in the group - as if a little out of loyalty to family patrons.

Workshop: Drawn Family Alignment

You are invited to a 1-1 individual session of systematic view of your family through the art of drawing. A 2.5-3 hour session with materials, drinks and snacks, and set up as a piece of art as a keepsake or introduction to further work. Price: $350/session

Make an appointment by phone/WhatsApp 7814771781 or email:


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